If You’re Feeling Stuck,
Stop Looking for the Answer

When it comes to whether you want to become a parent or remain child-free… the answer will come to you, says Ann Davidman, Parenthood Clarity™ Mentor of more than 30 years.

In fact, you should avoid intentionally looking for the answer! 

Does this approach sound completely counterintuitive — especially when you’ve been struggling with one of the biggest decisions you’ll ever make?

You’re not the only one who feels this way at first…

Watch this excerpt from one of Ann’s classes as she explains this new mindset to one of her students:

If You’re Feeling Stuck, Stop Looking for the Answer

The Obstacle of Mental Gridlock

During her 30+ years as a Parenthood Clarity Mentor, she’s noticed that most of her clients and students come to her with a terrible case of what’s called mental gridlock.

Mental gridlock happens when they’re trying to figure out their desire and their decision at the same time. They don’t realize it’s just not possible to mull over both of these questions simultaneously.

They begin to feel overwhelmed, which leads to stress and anxiety.

Messaging From Our Pro-Natalist Society

Our culture often screams its conclusion loud and clear — you “should” want children and you “should” have children. 

Even if you're raised in a home without pressure or expectations around the issue of parenthood, you can't avoid the larger messaging from society that permeates virtually every message you encounter.

Of course, this larger culture messaging is a complete myth. Parenthood is an option, an incredibly personal choice you get to make for yourself. Only you know what your truth is.

External Influences

Do you ever find yourself thinking, “I already have all the information I need to decide about parenthood. There are no new ‘facts’ to uncover — I’m just rehashing the same old considerations and fears. And I’m stuck.”

The “same old stuff” you’re rehashing while trying to figure out what you want is likely coming from your external influences. These influences are woven so intricately into the fabric of your life that they’re almost imperceptible. They’re different for everyone, but often include finances, health, age, relationships, support network, fears, and more. 

To gain clarity, you must place these external influences in a tightly lidded jar so you can focus on your internal world. 

Ironically, what YOU truly desire on your deepest levels is likely the new information you need to make a decision. It comes from within, but it’s been buried under the subconscious messaging in your mind for so long that you’re not even aware of it.. 

Getting clear on what you want and why will absolutely feel like new information. Because it will be!

Working With Ann

Are you ready to begin your journey to clarity? Ann offers a variety of resources and courses for anyone struggling with deciding whether to become a parent or remain child-free.

• Read the book Motherhood-Is It For Me?
• Enroll in one of Ann's carefully designed group Parenthood Clarity™ Courses: Motherhood Clarity™ Course (two formats), or Fatherhood Clarity™ Course
• Work with Ann 1:1 in her Private Clarity™ Course

Join Ann’s Upcoming Free Online Event

Do you want to have kids or remain child-free?

Begin your journey to clarity as you start to unpack societal and family influences, fears, and unconscious beliefs — so you can decipher what you most want and need.

When you join us for this special 1-hour event,  you’ll also learn how you can continue working with Ann in an in-depth weekend workshop, if you’re feeling called. Ann has been helping people find their personal clarity since 1991 and has taken everything she’s learned and put it into a comprehensive, in-depth exploration of the deep-rooted pressures and expectations associated with parenthood.